You're Not Qualified!

Throughout my career, I have learned that you should never shy away from an opportunity just because you don't meet all of the qualifications. Why, you ask? First, I think it is important to understand your worth and then multiply it by 10. Not for vanity's sake, but because we all tend to minimize our value. Just because you don't have everything on someone else's proverbial "wish list" doesn't mean that you don't have other qualifications that make you even more valuable. Second, I personally struggle with the definition of the word "qualified", in some cases I would argue that everyone has different life experiences, personalities, internal drivers, and educational backgrounds that make some of those "disqualified" people, exceptionally qualified. Finally, I believe the feeling of being qualified is all about perception, and we all know that perception may not always be reality. After all, we can all think of a "qualified" person that ended up being a total train wreck on the job. So, what's my point?

Well, during a recent conversation with a friend, we began talking about our jobs and how I began this business. I could tell you it was a series of coincidences, but I don't believe in luck. As I communicated my passion for this work, I said something I have never said out loud. It was a revelation, of sorts, for me so I thought I would share it with you:

In this life, you have to find something you're good at that brings value to the people you serve and allows you to contribute to the world in a meaningful way. I guess after all of these years and all my degrees (four degrees and a real estate license to be exact), I have come to realize one thing. It's really never something I thought about but, in hindsight, i see it so clearly. I am exceptionally qualified to speak about overcoming guilt and shame because both have been either a close roommate or a neighbor to me the majority of my life. I also know a thing or two about hope and the power it has to change your life and heal your soul in ways you never imagined. I may not have a degree in any of these areas, but I don't need one, because I am absolutely, one hundred percent, qualified. 

The truth is that each of us comes from the school of hard knocks, which makes us uniquely qualified to teach each other lessons that have absolutely nothing to do with our job title or experience. The greatest teachers I've ever met, the ones that have motivated me to do and be better, show up in the most unlikely places and often come from the most diverse backgrounds. After all, I learned the importance of showing up in life from a janitor, not from someone that may have been deemed more "qualified" to teach the subject matter. So, the lesson is this...don't ever discount someone else's qualifications based on what you think you know about them. Their life experiences, or "special sauce", just might make them more qualified than you. 

- Stay Flawesome