There is no question I have a worded response for just about everything. After all, they don't call me a word nerd for nothing! However, I have learned over time that there is a time and a place for words and a time to remain silent. Oh, don't get me wrong, I can verbally go toe-to-toe with the best of them! But, in the spirit of not feeding the bears, I am well aware that words have a tendency to poke a hungry bear. Let me explain...
There once was a time when I felt I needed to respond to everything. When someone said something nasty to or about me behind my back, when someone lied to my face, when someone didn't give me the credit I knew I deserved, when someone betrayed me, etc..I wanted to make certain they knew, that I knew, EXACTLY what they had done. Why? Because no one was permitted to hurt me like that and actually get away with it! I would make certain they knew that I was not as stupid as I apparently looked...at all costs - but little did I know that I was poking the bear.
You see, there are some people (we all know who they are) who seem to derive tremendous pleasure from pushing your buttons to the point that you feel you need to poke the bear. Let me be clear, I am a still a work-in-progress. However, today I have learned to let it go because I know the bear is only hungry for the fight. When you engage the bear, you give it the power to control you. It is when you finally realize you have nothing to prove, you don't have to be right, and it doesn't matter what people think about you that you are in complete control of yourself and the situation. Besides, intelligent people don't just keep poking a hungry bear!
I have learned that the volume of your fight is directly proportional to your level of self-love. I would even argue that if you feel you have to poke the bear, the bear has already poked you. Silence, on the other hand, offers a sense of inner strength that, while often misconstrued as weakness, is undeniable power. You don't have to respond to everything. As a matter of fact, when you don't, the bear realizes there is no fight and moves on. So, quit poking the bear, you are fighting a losing battle...with yourself.
- Stay Flawesome